 The 1st thing I did when I arrived in Dhaka was to check in with Roy to see if he's arrived safely home. I remembered that he was going to have 1 day in Delhi, and then fly home to Israel. His mother has been calling him every day and asking him to come home. So he left Nepal, and bought a flight home, cutting his trip shorter than planned. But the 1st thing Roy replied to me after I sent the message shocked me beyond all my experience in all my travels... The rest of the trip, I travelled with a saddened heart.  Especially as things were going on in Israel and Gaza, things felt like they were shrouded with double layers of mourning now. Israeli travelers like Roy and Jonathan were not posting on their socials knowing that it would be insensitive that they're showing how much fun they're having when the war was going on. So i had no way of knowing how Roy was doing for the days to come. We could only give him space to be with family, as it was a much needed time to be with them. I was gutted for him too because just before he left, I made sure that he would go to find a piece of Pashmina scarf for his mom like he wanted to. He was not feeling like it, but there was a shop right there, so we went in to have a browse, and he chose one with the help with the shopkeeper who told me that I looked like a Nepali, and that he'd been many times to China. I was looking forward to hearing from Roy that his mom liked the scarf he picked... But now... I was just so gutted for Roy and for such a loss for him and his family... It's the Worst that could happen... the worst for a traveler to come home to... I'm truly sorry for their loss. My heart felt like lead...  As I floated on the river, watching Dhaka from the water, this place felt like Varanasi... It felt as if I was in Varanasi... An atmosphere of death and the beyond surrounded my heart... I was floating beyond the liveliness and friendliness of Dhaka, in a sadness of my own. Strangely enough, Dhaka had a large Armenian community here in the 1800s. They left in the 1900s, and left behind an Armenian church and a lot of graves in the middle of Dhaka. I read through the engravings carved onto the grave stones, they were lovely words of farewell for the ones loved and lost. A coincidental but much needed solace for how I felt that day.
In the middle of Kathmandu, I was surrounded...by 🇮🇱 travelers. In Nepal, you see the ✡︎ everywhere on temples and ancient structures in various Durbar Squares. Because in Buddhism, ✡︎ symbolises harmony. The 1st time I saw ✡︎ on a building, it really made me wonder, How on earth did humanity come about with the exact same symbol in 2 completely separate religious bodies??? And which came first? Who might have influenced who???? Etc etc. It was all so fascinating! I had no answers to these questions because I simply had no time to sit down to even look through my phones in my time in Nepal. I did a search later : The Symbologist: History of the six-pointed star There's also this video below which recounts the history of this ✡︎: But what really felt like serendipity alongside this was in actuality, in Kathmandu, our buddy is Israeli and he knew of a restaurant called OR2K that was serving food to Israeli travelers for half price. So he took us there twice in 2 days. When we arrived, I saw a piece of paper stuck to the service counter that it was a couple who was donating money to pay for half of all Israeli travelers’ purchase here. It wasn’t the restaurant’s idea. But seriously, the restaurant had 3 or 4 floors of dining space, Aside from tables, there are just cushions on the floor and sitting space all middle-eastern & of course Nepali style. I love sitting on the floor so it was lovely to just be in a restaurant at last where I could do so. The restaurant served foods of all origins, whether it’s curry or thai or pizzas or Israeli food. What was really spectacular though was the sheer scale of the customers on each floor. By the entrance to each floor, the floor space was covered with customers’ shoes, and once we were seated and I looked around me, practically every customer was an Israeli. Roy had his way of telling what kind of Israeli travelers each group was, too. First we had a running hilarity about the Israeli travelers’ sandals. As soon as you see those ugly iconic sandals, you’d know they’re Israeli, “They all had the same sandals!” SO every time I saw those sandals, I just called out “Israeli!” between ourselves for the fun of it. Seriously though, at one point, it felt like Kathmandu was filled with Israeli travelers, more than travelers from any where else.  And here I was, on my 2nd time here, sitting at the very end of the dining space,
right in front of my eyes, a roomful of Israelis that day... It was a strange and quite wonderful sight. There must be such a sense of camaraderie right then and there for all of the Israelis. Especially considering what had been going on back home and on Palestinian side... In this very restaurant called OR2K, there was a a lot of shalom and a lot of לְהִתְכַּנֵּס. As all jews were scattered in the ancient times, but will eventually come together. It was quite a lovely and unique scene for me to be in. Roy said there's a word for it in Hebrew, where Israelis would gather in times like this, it's called Israeliada. It's quite a lovely thing for him as an Israeli, he said to me. It has been horrible seeing attacks on people from both sides already, It is important to remember, whatever actions the governments and militaries or political forces of a nation are taking, people of those Palestinian / Israeli backgrounds shouldn’t be the target in countries of peace, where a lot of physical attacks and antagonism have been taking place. That’s just downright stupid & Humanity showing its true colours. As Chinese, we simply do not support or speak for any side with what’s happening. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  There is significant benefit in doing a digital detox, and I decided to do it again after my 2nd time in Phuket which lasted a week. This time I made it 10 days. My 1st digital detox was when I was in Cuba. I thought it would be a great place to do it, because internet could only be used when physically on the streets anyway, I might as well not have it. I loved it. It felt more like life again, The life we used to have pre-2010. I've always been a camera person, even before smartphones, I'd carry a camera everywhere. I was the Asian person taking pictures all the time, my friend would roll her eyes and smile when I poked my camera at her face. I just loved taking pictures. Phone, however, is a different matter. I hated waiting for txts, waiting to hear back, waiting and waiting, checking the phone to see if I received a message reply. That wasn’t healthy. Smartphones are worse. It's a micro-laptop on hand + a camera + a phone (which is a function I do not use). But the information you can gather on a smartphone is just too much. Looking at the phone becomes a filler of times when we could stare blankly at the ocean/the mountain/the street, thinking inward and giving our brain the time to wander and wonder at things. So that's why I'm doing the digital detox again. I do allow people to msg me, because that's how travelers and my family can stay in touch with me. But I do not look at social media of any kind. That was just the best choice ever. I also had too many things happening day in day out that I had no time to look at the phone anyway. So a week went past like nothing. I didn't need the smart phone for anything but panning a shot with it like a camcorder, or taking videos and photos whenever I did not feel the need to use my camera-camera. Doing the digital detox allows you to connect more with yourself, and spend more time looking at the world rather than the worlds within the phone.  I made time for writing my diary instead of looking at the phone,
I made time to read when I had any time at all to do so. In fact I feel like 10 days aren't even enough. I can easily go for 2 weeks or more next time I'm traveling. Especially if I have made a lot of friends. Time away from the phone is a good valuable time, worthy of living 100% present. I highly recommend every one of my friends some of that digital detox. It's so good. I'm going to do it again for every trip I take.  I sat here for an hour. This is now my favorite place in Bangkok. If it wasn't for the uncushioned benches, I'd have stayed for hours. If you put a time lapse of me sitting there, You'd have seen hundreds of visitors passing by. And me a still image in the frame. There's no where like this, not even Tokyo: Furthest from the temple mount in the horizon is the long line of Skyscrapers Which are the makeup of Bangkok's expansive skyline. I wanted to see a skyline for the trip And there I got it at the golden temple mount. This view was incredible because Just beneathe my eyes, I could see at least 13 temple complexes. And then there are all the movements and goings-on within the temples and on the old Bangkok streets. I could see Everything. And I was observing all the activities in every crook and cranies. Birds were flying at my eye level or below; I could see prayer-makers directly down below at the foot of the hill, I could see people dining at a table under the canopy inside the biggest temple below; I could see a guard sitting on the narrow old Bangkok street side on a chair, If he didn't move his all-outstretched legs, His feet wouldve been ran over by cars; I saw girls doing different poses for the camera, and someone holding the phones; I could see burnt and abandoned buildings, I could see temples of other religions; After half an hour I started noticing the unique designs of some of the skyscrapers that I didn't see before. I sat for so long that the weather changed from ☁️ to 🌥️, the sky turned blue, The heat rose and wind blew the clouds sparse. Not even Tokyo has such clearly layered scenes, where there's a contrast of the business district in the great distance, Forming a skyline, And over here, an expanse of temples and old houses... It was so wonderful. It was amazing how peaceful I was despite all the noise there: The hundreds of small bells that hang on the roof top rang in the breeze; All the bigger louder bells being struck by people's hands as they go up and arriving on site; The stupid recitation on loud speakers by a man, ruining ; Ceaseless shaking sound of fortune sticks by different people... I wondered what they hoped for, And it reminded me of the film I saw on the plane. Where the protagonist Toru got a Great Luck, yet he passed away anyway... I wondered how people entrusted so much of their lives with the great beyond, and what their lives were like that dictated such faith. Amidst all the noise and chaos and passing people, I was so still, in complete contentment. Just sitting and staring as I can. If there ever was someone you know who is so much like a cat That'd be me. And funnily enough, The shirt dress I wore was covered with cats. You wouldnt be able to tolerate all this sitting and staring by me if you came along. I thought, only 1 being would be able to sit with me like this. That would be Binah. Binah would look at at first and I'd be holding her, Then she'd greet everybody that comes, wagging her tail at them, getting pets and possibly photos. Then when she's bored of all of that, She'd just lay next to me and nap. She wouldn't leave or complain.   𝑾𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝑪𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔: 𝑯𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝑰𝑺 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒅, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒂𝒔 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒎𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒆 & 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 ---
𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏 𝑯𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒚, 𝑰'𝒎 𝒈𝒍𝒂𝒅. 𝑰'𝒎 𝑺𝒐 𝒈𝒍𝒂𝒅 𝑰'𝒎 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝟏 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒂𝒗𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒄𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒔, 𝑵𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒃𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝑾𝒆𝒍𝒍...𝑻𝒐𝒌𝒚𝒐/𝑲𝒚𝒐𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒂𝒏, 𝒃𝒖𝒕, 𝑩𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒌𝒐𝒌 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒎𝒂𝒛𝒊𝒏𝒈. & 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒊𝒏 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔, 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒎𝒆 𝒊𝒕'𝒔 𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕. 𝑺𝒐 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒂𝒔 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌𝒔 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒐𝒙𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒎𝒆. 𝑰'𝒅 𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒅 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒍 𝒔𝒐𝒍𝒐 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒔𝒐 𝒐𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒏. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝑰 𝒕𝒐𝒐𝒌 𝒂 𝑮𝒓𝒂𝒃 𝒕𝒐 𝑪𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒊 𝑨𝒊𝒓𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒂𝒕 𝟒, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒓𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒔𝒌𝒆𝒅 𝒎𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎,𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐, 𝑯𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒊𝒅, "𝒚𝒐𝒖'𝒓𝒆 𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒈𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒔." 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒊𝒅, ..."𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒗𝒆. 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 𝒔𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒚 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆~" 𝑰'𝒅 𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒐 𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒍𝒐𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒔, 𝑨𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒆𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆. 𝑨𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒊𝒔𝒏'𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒍𝒚, 𝒊𝒕'𝒔 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆; 𝑨𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏'𝒕 𝒃𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕 𝑰𝑺 𝒑𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒇𝒖𝒍. 𝑰 𝒅𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒚𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒔𝒆𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆, 𝒂𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒑𝒂𝒄𝒆. 𝑰𝒇 𝑰 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒂𝒔𝒌 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆, 𝑰'𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆, 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒚 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒅. 𝑰 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝑰 𝒎𝒆𝒕 𝒐𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒑𝒔, 𝒔𝒐 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉. 𝑺𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕. 𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒄𝒌 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒂𝒖𝒍 𝒕𝒐𝒅𝒂𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒆. 💸💸💸💸💸 Thanks to Ostello Bello Mandalay in arranging a tuk tuk driver for me, my final 2 full days in Mandalay were lived fully and well traveled.  After I’ve had breakfast, I asked to be taken to Mingu, where the white temple is. To get to Mingu, before 2018, you could just take a ferry across the Irrawaddy River and get there in a short and straight line in half an hour. But now, there is no sound tourism infrastructure available, no ferries run these days to take visitors across the river like that So you have to go by car and you’d go through Innwa first then head up north to Mingu. The cost was going to be 800,000 Kyat regardless of whether I visit Innwa or not. I didn’t want to visit Innwa because that’ll just be too much in my system. But I chose to leave it with next time. Especially as Innwa is full of hills, and I needed to hire a horse cart for my time there, as the tuktuk couldn’t go around it. The cost for the horse cart would be 300,000 kyat. It’s not that much, but no, I just didn’t want to see too much all in 1 day. I wanna pace it out. Maybe another day, maybe next time. So off I went right after breakfast. My tuktuk driver was already ready for me. I had brought along an extra dress with me, because the Ostello Bello Mandalay staff didn’t like how my bright pink & yellow dress still has these wide open slits on the side that showed a lot of my legs. In case of the need to change, I kept the dress on still for the ride, but took my favorite green dress with me and left it in my bag. The road leading away from Mandalay was straight, smooth, and long, it was also rather unoccupied. Sometimes it felt like the tuktuk I was in was the only vehicle on the road. There were people working the brickworks in the middle of the street for the bays, oxes stood in the shade under the canopy of the trees, there were a series of fruit stands on the street-side: watermelons upon watermelons, stacked and piled on top of one another, layer upon layer. This explained why Ease Hotel would have watermelon juice at the breakfast buffet. There were enough watermelon stands for me to anticipate the next stand, and get my camera ready to take pictures of them. I couldn’t anticipate people and oxes that passed by though throughout the journey. Even though some of them were worthy of having pictures taken, especially the women who walk with containers on their heads or with a bit round plate that could hold a lot of things on their heads.  The driver stopped briefly on the overbridge with triple archways for me to take pictures of Innwa. Innwa IS beauuuuutiful! This should really be the centre of Mandalay's tourism!  Several hilltops were adorned with golden or white pagodas. Then there was the Irrawaddy River beneath the bridge. So the pictures were very scenic indeed. I’d love to come back to Innwa on future trips. But right now, it is too hot and I am too un-bothered to go climbing hills in 40-degree heat.  At the end of the Irrawaddy Bridge was a checkpoint, stationed there - it felt like - really just to take tips from drivers. My tuk tuk driver drove on by without needing to give any tips, but I could see drivers holding their hands out to give the police money in cash. It seemed like it didn’t even matter how much was given, as long as they paid, they could pass?? Not sure. Before reaching the checkpoint, My driver told me to put my camera away. Obediently I did so, because I wouldn’t want the army/the police to take my camera away, And I wouldn’t want them to come up to me just to check on my things. I’m no journalist, I’m just a traveler passing through. I’m here to appreciate your country, not to criticise it. We were in Innwa in no time after coming off the bridge.  And already you’d find yourself going past pagoda after pagoda. They were just dotted all around town. What a sacred and serene place! Immediately this felt like a change from the crazy hustle and bustle of Mandalay streets. Even the outskirts of Mandalay had lots of traffic and pedestrians, this felt like an instant breather from the higher population in Mandalay.  On a long quiet road, my tuk tuk driver stopped to pick up some bottles of fuel. And I mean, they were actually small plastic water bottles of fuel, lined up on a little stand on the street side, looked after by a local lady. On a long quiet road, my tuk tuk driver stopped to pick up some bottles of fuel.On a long quiet road, my tuk tuk driver stopped to pick up some bottles of fuel.  After 10min of a break, (I sat inside the tuk tuk and waited, but really I would’ve loved to walk around a bit, because even just to my left was a temple with a big white pagoda) the tuk tuk set off and kept driving - heading towards Mingu of Sagaing region...  🇲🇲 Mandalay really frustrated the hell outta me from the onset. It's really rare that I'd be somewhere while traveling and rather be somewhere else. The only other place I felt like that was Cuba, when simply nothing felt right. Unlike when I was in Cuba, I have been in Good company here. People are absolutely lovely, It's very easy to make friends. But the vibes on the street... just don't jive with me. You know something is wrong with a place when things aren't easy for us visitors. But at least this country is good enough in the sense that visitors can actually come in & travel - you just cannot go everywhere, because: "There are martial laws here." This was what the custom officer who tried to get a tip from me said to me. The 1st evening I arrived and checked in to my hotel - Ease Hotel, All I wanted was to go see the sunset. Thanks to bad communication by the hotel staff with the tuktuk driver, the tuktuk driver took me to the most obscure place on the street for this random-as temple, when I wanted to go to the pagodas at the top of Mandalay Hill. I was so mad and just handed the cash to the tuktuk driver and walked off into the sunset, literally. I walked towards to the palace and walked along the moat for my 1st improper golden hour in Mandalay. But honestly, while things aren't as stupidly difficult and loosely structured as in Cuba, things here sure have to follow the daily whims and changes by the military, and feel like they are quite non-functional, and definitely lack formal tourism infrastructure that it used to have.  Stunning Hintha themed cruiseships that are just deserted on the riverside The Chinese jade trader here I talked to today described things in 🇲🇲 as following what in Chinese we call 江湖規矩， which is super apt. There are No rules ie the military can make whatever the hell rules they come up with. And you must follow them coz they are the government and they'll charge you a fine or charge you a fee no matter if you don't follow suit. There are strange popup of barricade here and there that just don't make any obvious sense...  You can find these barricades set up by the police/the military everywhere along the streets My buddy Thomas who's from Shan has been so generous and attentive and has been trying to make sure I'm looked after. He spends his mornings at the jade market, and the rest of the day he just swipes on his phone watching short videos on WeChat/Facebook. I assume that it comes down to him being bored and wanting to be helpful. Because as soon as I say I wanna go somewhere, He would try to arrange things for me, for the reason that he is half a local and can find out information from the locals here. He would also use this walkie-talkie, instead of the phone, which made me laugh everytime I saw it. He would call his usual tuktuk driver and asks for update on situations or whether it'd be good for me to go, which I appreciate, But I don't need the arrangements from him! The hostel staff can do it for me. I don't need him to do it, He's not a trusted tour agency, and he's not an actual local who knows everything about Mandalay and its surroundings. His help felt like a shackle for me. As soon as I stopped telling him where I wanted to go, and stopped taking him along to where I was going, I ended up having a great experience. So this became a refresher lesson for me here in Mandalay, that the rule of thumb for solo-travelers is to wait for no one, rely on no one. I feel like 江湖規矩 - street rules - aside, I can actually utilize my visitor-status, and play to my ignorance as a vantage point. Once you have the knowers involved, I myself end up in a less controlled place. It's frustrating in the sense that literally nothing has worked out as long as someone else is intervening. I'd rather do things myself and go on my own than knowing someone else has got me covered. Like - Don't try to take care of me. I'll be fine myself. Let me go to places using my own vantage point. I don't want the local connections. And it feels like things are like that with the military presence. I don't want your interference, but the military and their checkpoints just have to be there. Tuktuk drivers can't even go in a straight line from town to Mandalay Hill, and have to drive all the way around circumnavigating the entire palace - which is hundreds of acres big - to get to the Mandalay Hill which led to me missing the sunset time and by the time our tuktuk fought the crazy traffic and got there, Mandalay Hills had also been closed to entry. You literally aren't allowed to go up a damn hill. It's a hill, how do you close off a hill??  This is the entrance to Mandalay Hill. It has several iconic monasteries and stupas up there, But you just aren't allowed to go up there after 6pm And it is just for today. It may be different tomorrow. You don't know. Tuk tuk drivers don't even know. You have to find out on the spot, Or on the day. (At least that what the tuktuk drivers said or what I've been told by Thomas.) It's just all so random, and haphazard. If you haven't been to a place which is open to visitors but won't allow you to go climb a hill, now you know there is one here - in Myanmar, this place is called Mandalay.  Rules for TukTuk drivers. The top 4 - where they can go. The bottom 3 - where they cannot. By the time we left the foot of the Mandalay Hill, I was already quite mad about the 30min long detour. Once it turned out that I couldn't even go up the hill, I asked the tuktuk driver to take us to the next available temple, which was Sandamuni Pagodas, and that was shut too, even though I could see people inside. So I said, then take me to the next one that might be open, and that ended up being Kuthodaw, which I'd been already 2 days before. The tuktuk driver dropped us off at Kuthodaw, I was just sooooo frustrated by it all... At least my evening was made up by us chancing upon a night "market" - with just 1 single food stall - along the palace wall - called "Castle Hill", Castle Hill had its own a juice stand attached to the business, and 1 ice cream stall. Unlike Bangkok, where there is hundreds in each, and many night markets,  "Castle Hill" - the only food stall there is. It was still so nice~ just to see something nice for local Mandalayans to enjoy. They were taking a stroll, cycling, eating out. It was heartening to see that they do have a little something to make their day more liveable  Locals strolling, cycling, enjoying their evening. So far, Mandalay has proven to be a place of contrast: Of undercurrent of tension, Of people making through life and getting by despite the rubbish they have to put up with It's a beautiful place, a gorgeous country which you cannot simply travel through and through as easily as you could like a few years ago. As a visitors, seeing how local people are living their daily lives is our lens into a world - into to a country and a city. If things are nice and easy for the local people, things would be nice politically and socially. If things are difficult and conceited and changeful according to the political climate of the day, or of the month, Then things can't be nice for neither he people nor the visitors.   The pursuit of the ordinary -- How & why I travel Very differently:
I love site seeing don't get me wrong. But I Love doing the most common every day activies when I'm traveling. For me, traveling is not going to see the most epic things. For me, traveling is appreciating the world and appreciating the people who live at where I'm visiting. I don't go to places for the glamorous pictures or to show off where I've been. I spend a lot of effort and a lot of time finding out and learning about each place, the political history and current situation, the environmental state, the social struggles of its people well before going there. And when I am there, these information I have gathered would always be at the back of my mind, with every step I take in their city, I remain conscious of the backdrop of situations in the city in which they make a living. So much so that I make sure not to do certain activities, Not to do certain things , So as to remain mindful and careful about what I'm doing. I have gained this habit I guess not because of me being pedantic, But because I've done all my university papers through on the places I travelled to, so researching on a deeper academic level became a thing I end up enjoying and making an effort in doing for every trip. For me traveling is never and should never be about glamour or the pursuit of epic things. It should and needs to be about understanding first and foremost, But while traveling, it should just be all about appreciating the world we have and the earthlings in it . So with me, you may often find me doing the most mundane and rather ordinary things, like walking through the most obscure park or a beach, or just randomly weaving through residential streets for hours. For me, every day when I'm traveling is a day for me to live my life in another place, in as ordinary a way as life could be lived. Walking around itself feels sufficient and fulfilling for me. And it's the little moments and the little things, and little gestures from people an exchange with someone, that are the most memorable to me, and will mean the most to me. It's how Boh here remembered exactly what fruits I like for the smoothie from the 1st day I purchased from her stand, and she remembered precisely how I don't want any sugar nor any ice, She always recognised me and welcomed me with a smile, I went back to her stand every day and would spend half an hour looking for parking around old town just to get a smoothie from her; It's how everyone greeted me with a smile when saying Sabaidee with their praying palms in Luang Prabang, and did not hesitate to listen to my request; It's how the grey cat at the temple with the big golden Rock immediately reached out to jump into my lap as soon as I sqautted down to greet it with some rubs, it meoweed and meowed and approached me needily; It's that feeling of bliss when gliding down the Mekong river, cooling my skin with the yellow water on a hot day. What makes traveling beautiful ks Not the yachts, drinking alcohol or getting wasted, Not conquering mountains or camping in freezing cold conditions, Not surfing huge waves or sailing or sunbathing on remote islands, not designer fashion or partying all night longnekth friends. It's the ordinary seemingly insignificant things that mean the most to me. It always annoyed me whenever my granddad saying that I was out "having fun again", which was his way of saying that I had gone travelling. But having fun was never a concept for me. If you knew me you'd find that I'm not into games or enjoy them much, Having fun was never my aim by travelling. Appreciation always was at the core. So selfishly, if I don't get to appreciate a moment or a place or an event properly, I get quite discontent about it. This is just how I see the significance of traveling and why I travel. Traveling is when I truly live and live fully. That's why I love doing it - I love doing this thing called life itself. And there's so much more to why I love it of course, but appreciation is at the centre of my love for travel. I love being able to be out and about and appreciating this world, I love living as much as I can in the world. That is all. I may not be good at explaining it. Does that make sense?  Just attended the 2nd ever funeral I've ever been to in life. I streamed in online remotely and it turned out to be incredibly special because: despite the total downpour here throughout the day, the sky magically cleared from the moment the service was due to start through to the last moment as my friend finished his speech for the dearest son that he so loved and lost,
The sun shone and gave the sky a beautiful hue, which lit up the ocean in front of my room, where I watched the sunrise while listening to the eulogy my friend gave... It was extremely painful and I wept a lot with him. Death is not the end of our journey with someone we love so dearly. But choosing death over life is not the best solution to one's struggle. If it helps at all, we just need to remember our lives are not our own. If anyone you know who may be going through an incredibly difficult time and you know about it, please reach out to them in person, check in with them often, talk to them and hear each other's voice, give them the strength they need through your care and love for them, help them rise above their situation. There's truly nothing more important in life than giving each other true companionship, attentiveness, and support. Don't let them leave themselves alone. It's difficult... it's a difficult subject to broach. I can't speak enough of how deeply sad I feel, and can only cry for the loss of a beautiful soul. #SuicidePrevention I don’t know if this is something only fellow travelers can relate. I REALLY hope I’m not alone here, because sometimes I wonder if it makes me a bad person living in New Zealand, or if it is something that I also feel when I’m anywhere with a dominating culture when I’m traveling. It’s an UnEase I frequently struggle with, PARTICULARLY working here in New Zealand, It annoys me to the core so much oftentimes. that I have a second-guess and double-check myself to see if I’m wrong in why I feel this unease & discomfort, and try to remember if I ever feel like this when I’m in other countries. The backstory for this unease is: New Zealand has 3 official languages, and officially it considers itself as a BiCultural nation, even though it’s reasonably multicultural with roughly 9% of Pacific Islanders, 15% Asian, Out of the 5%: 5% is from India, 4.5% are Chinese - and btw, “Chinese” is not an ethnicity (this bugs me every time I had to fill out a form, just like “Indian” is not an ethnicity. Similarly, “Burmese” is an ethnicity, but not all of Myanmar are Burmese.  So:
It’s Matariki soon in Aotearoa. In the fortnight team hui today, it was centred on learning the stars of the Matariki constellation, the meanings designated them stars, what it indicates when some stars shine brighter than usual. Annoyingly, one of my least favourite coworkers suggested assigning people to a roster to say karakia for future hui. And our senior staff followed by agreeing to this and said, “if you have dissent, please raise your hand” or whatever. I’m not sure if anybody has a right for dissension in this. Culturally speaking, we’re meant to be respectful. Personally speaking, I hate rosters and I really don’t want to say karakia when somebody with more cultural authority can. From my perspective, it’s the same thing as I will never force you onto a roster to say something in Chinese. In Aotearoa, New Zealand, Te Reo Maori is 1 of the 3 official langauges. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love the fact that Te Reo and Sign Language are the official languages. I think every country should follow this example as a role model for respect for the indigenous culture and for the protection of Maori cultural heritage. And naturally, countries like the Cook Islands, Samoa, Fiji, New Caledonia, Solomon Islands, will have their own indigenous languages as their official language. Places like New Caledonia in particular is a great contrast to New Zealand. New Caledonia certainly doesn’t make Karnak its own name, like New Zealand would refer to itself by Te Reo as common practice -- as Aotearoa, and it certainly doesn’t make the Karnak Bislama/Creo its official language, this is not because Karnak people are not the majority of the population, they very much are, and by far greater proportion than Maori in Aotearoa, but because of the inherent diversity of Karnak people, there are linguistic variabilities and perhaps aren’t as ethnically united as tangata Maori these days. Similarly, Vanuatu has hundreds of different languages and dialects, so much so that Bislama varies from village to village, kinda like in Papua New Guinea. But then it doesn’t mean Vanuatuan Bislama shouldn’t be considered the main official language side-by-side with French and English, because all 3 languages are used in a typical church service. All in all, I support and encourage language inclusion for countries with indigenous populations. What I’m not entirely comfortable with is I guess what NZ does to me is what the Chinese government has done to other ethnic groups in China -- forcing Te Reo practice onto me like the Chinese government has forced Han Chinese onto the indigenous ethnic groups in China. Trust me, I am passionate and deeply care about indigenous cultures. Learning the language is 1 of THE most important aspects of learning a culture. And because I live in New Zealand, I have been so embracing of Maori culture. But I never said I wanted to learn and speak the language. That is not what I signed up for. The only thing that hone in my I Want To Do What I want mindset back at work is my grandmother’s final word of advice to me before she passed: Adhere to the values & do what the people do in the country that you live. There’s great weight in this wisdom of my grandmother’s. When I heard it, I liked it, even though immediately I thought of the whole Maori cultural imposition on all migrants when I heard it. In New Zealand, using Te Reo is an inescapable aspect of daily work life. If I work alone with my own business, in some non-profit, I would have been spared; but in the government, I can hardly have a breather from a non-Te-Reo day. I HATE it. I LOVE Maori culture from a distance. Just as I’d dive into any indigenous cultures when I visit their countries, I would learn as much as I could, pick up a few words here and there and speak it as well as I could, But I would never want to be FORCED to do anything. I can understand and agree with my grandmother’s advice, that if I live somewhere, then respect the locals' ways. But there’s a difference between respecting local’s ways and doing as what local people do. What if I’m not one that is suited for following orders, or wanting to do what the majority does? I NEVER like to do what I’ve been TOLD to do. I’ll very likely ignore you if I don’t go & do the very opposite. I also don’t believe in the wisdom of the crowd. I’m not a bird in a flock that jumps and takes off at whatever life-threatening/ non-threatening situation that may come up, triggered by another bird who got frightened by whatever movement or sound. As people, we are individuals, and can live and BE as individuals. When traveling, you’re often confronted by cultures and languages that are vastly different from your usual ones. You approach it with respect, even if you may find aspects of disagreement. But when you’re traveling, you don’t need to worry about adopting the local ways. You’re an outsider, you’ll be gone in no time. Even if you may stay there for some time, you don’t need to feel forced to adopt local ways. Here in NZ, if you’re a traveler, it would certainly feel like that, too. But it is not the case in daily life living here as a migrant. Whether you’re here on short-term visa, or permanent like I am, you will be shoved in the face with demands of karakia, and now imposed onto you, like is the case in my team, thanks to my annoying coworker. I have dissent, but I can’t speak it. It’ll make me an alien, or risk being considered that I disrespect the politically correct culture of respect for Te Ao Maori. By no means do I have any disrespect, I simply don’t want to be imposed of it. That is ALL. I’d rather practice Japanese, than Te Reo Maori. Okay? I’d rather than Hebrew, than Te Reo Maori. That is all it is to it. I can understand the need to know the local ways, but whether or not I have to follow it, should be my own choice, especially as an individual living in a democratic society, unless this is NOT a democratic society. This is how I concluded that perhaps, because I consider myself a global citizen, perhaps I prefer to remain an outsider, not to become one of them - to become one of anywhere. I have places where I feel strong sense of belonging, and that place certainly isn’t New Zealand. The solution for my frustration is probably: either find a workplace that isn’t so try-out in-your-face politically correct, or move to a country where it’s politically multicultural rather than bicultural, so that I don’t have to be forced to practice another culture when I don’t want to. |
